Other than a change taking place, as I discussed in the article ‘Unhappy
at Work? A Change is Coming,’ there is no perfect solution for
dealing with a difficult boss, but here are five suggestions that might
make your situation a little less painful.
#1) Think of your boss as a parent and you as his teenage child.
This sounds silly at first, but the relationship between you and your
boss is very similar to that between a parent and child. Teenagers often
have problems with authority and experience disagreements with their
parents. Meanwhile, parents often create rules the child believes to
be unfair. If the situation gets bad enough, as soon as the child is
old enough he finds a way to move out and make it on his own. Parents
aren’t perfect and neither are bosses - both will make mistakes.
#2) Do the absolute best job you can.
Sometimes the child misbehaves.
J. Paul Getty once said, “The employer generally gets the employees
he deserves.”
Make sure you are the type of employee you would want working for you
if you were the boss. I know this goes against the notion of revenge
and tucking it to an unfair boss whenever possible, but by doing the
best job possible you give the unfair boss less ammunition he can use
to make your life miserable. He also might think twice about upsetting
one of his better employees when there are plenty of other, easier targets
he can take aim at.
Don’t draw attention to yourself. Unless you are the only one
your boss has it in for, there should be plenty of others to draw his
wrath away from you. Let someone else wear the target on their back.
#3) Learn all that you can from an unfair boss.
We can learn something from everyone we come into contact with. While
from a good boss we can learn good management techniques, it is also
true that from a poor boss we can learn how not to act. Don’t just
suffer, gain something from the situation that will benefit you in the
future. Watch how your boss handles different situations and make a mental
note of which techniques worked and which failed.
#4) Forget about yesterday.
Yesterday is history, it’s over with. Try not to let your issues
from yesterday spoil today. Instead, start each day with a new, positive
outlook, telling yourself that today is going to be better.
Sometimes we get into a rut, expect the worse and act accordingly -
we subconsciously force a person (in this case, our boss) to act the
way we expect him to act. Make sure you are not unintentionally adding
fuel to the fire. Starting each day with a fresh slate is the best way
to get past previous differences. Holding onto a grudge only hurts yourself.
#5) Take responsibility.
Don’t expect someone else to end your suffering.
Complaining is easy, but it accomplishes very little. Worrying about
a problem won’t make it go away while losing sleep and dwelling
on an issue only makes it seem worse. You will never be happy if you
are focusing on worry. If you are truly in a situation that is causing
you pain, you need to begin taking steps to improve the situation.
The Roman Philosopher Sallust said, “Every man is the architect
of his own fortune.”
Have you actually looked for another job? Have you tried to improve your
skills through in-house training, adult learning centers, books or correspondence
courses? Even the smallest step in the right direction is progress. An
obstinate boss won’t change his ways, but you can improve your own
skills. Why not let your difficult boss be the motivation you use to better
yourself?
About the Author
Gary Mosher is co-author of the award-winning ‘Buddha in the Boardroom’,
the business book that shows you how to excel in today’s chaotic
and stressful workplace environment, available from Bodhi Tree Publishing,
LLC at http://www.bodhitreepublishing.com
Visit Gary’s blog at http://www.buddhaintheboardroom.blogspot.com |
