10 Easy Steps to Improve Your Self Esteem

These tips are based on the self esteem building courses I teach. I'm sure they can help you too;

1. Learn how to do something well

Being good at something boosts your confidence and is fun.

2. Realise being shy is OK

Half of us are extroverts and half introverts. There are advantages to both so be proud to be as you are.

3. Beauty does not bring happiness

Happiness and confidence do bring attractiveness. Learn how to make the most of your good points and enjoy them.

4. Set realistic standards for yourself

Perfectionism undermines your pleasure in your achievements. Too low standards give little sense of achievement.

5. Deal with your problems

Unresolved issues undermine your confidence. Decide what needs to be done, do it and move on.

6. Do not criticise yourself

Over time, the bad things you say about yourself make you feel bad. Replace negative sayings with positive or neutral ones.

7. Recognise that what you want is as important as what others want

Ask for what you want and compromise gracefully if necessary.

8. Asking for, and accepting, help is a normal adult behaviour

It shows strength, not weakness.

9. The quality of your relationships has a profound affect on your self esteem

Avoid people who put your down or complain a lot. Find new upbeat companions who are enjoying their lives as their attitude will rub off on you.

10. Smile and stand tall

Behave the way you want to feel. Your facial expression and body posture do affect your emotions.

Finally let me finish with my favourite quote; 'If you do what you've always done, you'll get what you've always got'.