Message #1468

[lioness70]

Here's what I would do:  Keep them separate.  Have one shower for family and one shower for coworkers.  But I wouldn't say anything to them.  Let them plan it and think they're surprising you.  That coworker's request was plain old tacky-you don't ask the showeree, who's supposed to be (somewhat) surprised, to tell the planners to make sure to include you!  That's weird.  Have they left her out of such things before is is she one of those party-happy people?



When I was PG with my son, my coworkers had a shower for me a few days before I went out on maternity leave.  I also had a family shower a few days before-no coworkers were invited.  (I wasn't working at that job long either-about 5 months.  I didn't expect one, but it was nice.)



Also, I hope whoever's planning this has the sense to make sure it's after work!