Message #50749

[raindance]

You made the right decision for you, Nicola, and if you feel comfortable then you can be sure it is the right thing.  Sometimes you can change the subject in such conversations, but most of the time it is best just to steer clear of people like the one you describe.  They can be absolute poison, and often have little comprehension of the bad example they set.

My personal rule is that I don't fraternize with colleagues outside work, and only attend official work events, birthday drinks etc.  I also don't get involved in office politics.  Years ago, someone advised me to "be friendly, but not familiar" and that has stood me in good stead.

Best wishes,

Raindance