Message #59569

[emma138]

Well, he's certainly an odd one.

I'm inclined to agree with others that he is attracted to you.  You mentioned before that he's married and if he has a generally happy marriage he may be protecting himself and his marriage, as he sees it, by limiting his contact with you.  Less contact, less substance with which to fuel his fantasy of you.

But may be wrong, who knows what his motives are.  If he is behaving professionally, however, there may be nothing you can do.  Some people are just cold fish and don't have the need to build working relationships that are friendly as well as courteous.  If it's not creating an atmosphere that is affecting your mutual colleagues, it might be better to accept him as he is.  

I'm not sure about mentioning it to him.  If you think he might be responsive, it might be worth doing but given that his behaviour to date seems to be designed to maintain a distance between you, he may resent this approach.  Cultivate some friendships with your other colleagues.  Over time he may drop his barriers.