Message #44879

[supergirl]

"Limiting contact with the person involved is only a temporary measure, and in my opinion should be used sparingly and only when you yourself have lost your ability to control your reactions to this person. And it’s important to note, if you have lost your ability to control your emotional reaction, it’s NOT this other person’s fault, that "blame" has got to rest with you."

But if this is the person you report to, who does your review every year, who controls every aspect of your workday, then perhaps it is healthier for you to try to limit contact?  Developing your workplace "people skills" is one thing, but subjecting yourself to abuse is another.  Really I think we are discussing apples and oranges.  Annoying people can be dealt with.  Manipulative, power-wielding despots (wow!) are probably a lost cause.  

Supergirl (Monday down; four days to go)