Message #79523

[msmarieh]

It actually should have been addressed the very first time it happened, as unfortunately a precendent has been set to allow the behavior to continue. Like you, I am no wallflower. I would call her out on her behavior (in private).

How you phrase yourself when you comment back on her tone is critical. You may be inadvertently escalating the situation. I would sit with her in a private calm moment and discuss it using the "when you do this (give specifics like raise your voice or use these words), I feel (again give specifics). This makes for an uncomfortable situation. I would like to improve our working relationship."

However, the truth of the matter is, some bosses are just psycho bosses. At this point, as short as this employment has been, it might be worth it to cut your losses and look for another job. No one should be disrespected on the job.