Message #50280

[emd_22]

Thanks for all the comments/suggestions.  It has been very helpful to know I am not alone in this sort of situation.

Looking back on what I said to Jane.  I don’t really feel have anything to hide, as what I said to her was mainly that I was disappointed with the fact that it appeared that I wasn’t trusted.  Also that my boss had suggested that I went for one of the other jobs and that I wasn’t too keen etc so this had made me concerned for my job.  My previous manager was very open about things and told me of his move about 3 months before it happened.  It’s amazing how different managers can be.

Before Christmas when my boss spoke to me about one of the jobs I tried to lead the conversation around to what was happening with him to give him a chance to tell me about this of his own accord.  However he just changed the subject.  I realise that sometimes you can’t tell other people about things.  He is not leaving the company just going on an International Assignment, which can be for up to 5 years.  However I believe that it is almost up to the stage when contracts are being negotiated etc so I think it’s getting near completion.  I will try to raise this with him again to see what response I get.

I am concerned for Jane as it’s not easy when someone betrays a confidence.  I am, I believe, a very trusting person and often give people the benefit of the doubt even if I have heard comments about them before meeting them, as you can’t get on with everyone!  I also don’t normally talk to others about how my job is going, but it was a difficult time as my boss wasn’t around and when I did ask questions he avoided them.  I think I will have to learn from this experience.

Raindance – Thank you for the useful suggestions.  I always feel awkward in these situations when people tell me ‘gossip’ so the suggestions you made will come in useful.

Many thanks

Liz