Message #47688

[spitfire78]

Oh, I've been yelled at before - the bully-type of yelling - looming over me as I sit in my chair, red faced, voice raised, cursing (f*** this and f*** that) and then the screamer storms out without giving me a chance to respond.  I responded completely differently from what I would do now.  What I did was sit there desperately trying to get my two cents in and then felt frustrated and angry when he stormed out and I hadn't had chance to respond.  What I would do now (and since he's still my boss, I'm just waiting for it to happen again!) is get up (even if I had to run over his feet to do it!) and walk away.  If I had the opportunity, I would say that I do not need to take his abuse and we can discuss it later when he's calmed down.  More likely, though, is that I would not have that opportunity, so I would just walk away (to the ladies room, out of the building, to my supervisor, wherever - just to get away from him).  Since the last episode a few years ago, I've come to realize that it truly is abuse, and that I DO NOT have to put up with it.