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jadegrniiz
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« on: January 23, 2004, 08:30:28 pm » |
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After a couple of long months (maybe years!) of complaining, I finally hit the last straw. My husband and I talked about it last night, and I'm quitting my job to stay home with my baby.
Things will be tight - no doubt - but we can make it. We have enough "windfalls" coming between now and March to pay everything off.... and DH is up for a raise and has been hitting his sales numbers and earning bonus.
I'm giving notice on Monday. I would have done it today, but felt I'd rather have the weekend to be sure we didn't make a hasty decision. What do I tell her, since it's on the heels of a particulary heated discussion about my work? Do I just tell her I'm burned out and want to stay home with my kids? Do I tell her I'm just not able to drive 50 miles a day for my meeger salary? Or do I not tell her anything beyond the notice itself, and let her assume what she wants?
I'm so excited about being able to stay home. It's really - really made my outlook on life so much better!
Jadegrniiz
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Katie G
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« Reply #1 on: January 23, 2004, 08:45:54 pm » |
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I'd go for option #3. Give her your notice and nothing else. You don't have to explain yourself -- you're making a decision, not asking permission.
That said.....
Jade, this has been a long hard road for you and I'm so glad to hear that you're going to do what's right for you and your beautiful family. (Love the picture!) I wish you happiness and peace. (Are you still doing your toy business?)
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mathwhizchick
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« Reply #2 on: January 23, 2004, 09:38:58 pm » |
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I agree. If she tries to push, just keep referring her to your letter of resignation. Good luck!!  |
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blufire21
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« Reply #3 on: January 23, 2004, 09:50:23 pm » |
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I am so glad you're removing yourself from that horrible situation. Good for you. Don't worry if she pushes for an explination, just refer the letter. If she continues to push, reminder her that this is an at-will state, and if she continues to push, you will be leaving immediatly and not in 2 weeks (or whatever it's effective for).
Ellen in TX
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raindance
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« Reply #4 on: January 24, 2004, 01:02:27 am » |
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I agree with the others - a simple, straightforward resignation letter confining yourself to your leaving date, any holiday you have to take etc is best.
If it makes you feel better, then you can write this person a letter (which of course you won't give her!) about how beastly she is and then tear it up.
It must have been hard to come to the decision you have made, but it's a good one. You have a good husband and a family and that's all that really matters. You never know what good things the future holds and being at home with your family is maybe just what you need right now.
I wish you success and happiness always,
Raindance
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supergirl
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« Reply #5 on: January 24, 2004, 03:06:21 pm » |
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Hi, Jade--
I don't think you'll regret this decision. If your heart is leading you to it, it's right for you. Obviously you and your husband have given this a lot of thought.
I stayed home until my children were in middle and high school--it was of great benefit to them, and my husband and I just lived a modest lifestyle. My oldest is about to graduate this year--I don't regret a thing.
Best wishes!
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peana
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« Reply #6 on: January 26, 2004, 10:38:31 am » |
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It's great that you've finally made the decision to go - a 50 mile journey to work sounds absolutely exhausting!
Where I work the HR department carry out exit interviews to find out if staff are leaving due to any particular HR issue they should be aware of. I don't know if they have the same procedure where you work, but it may be worth spending some time clarifying everying in your mind should they call you in.
Good luck with the change, you've not rushed into this decision, so I'm sure it will be for the best.
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sheila3
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« Reply #7 on: January 26, 2004, 02:44:36 pm » |
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Good luck, and I am sure your doing the right thing. I too agree with peana, clarify everything in your mind, I have worked places where the HR department called me in to find out if they had done anything wrong or what they could work on to make things better. It wouldn't hurt to have something thought out, just in case and if you want to say something to others around you, you will have thought of it ahead of time.
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mlm668
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« Reply #8 on: January 26, 2004, 02:57:43 pm » |
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I am so glad you have a finally reached a decision that will make YOU happy. All you need to say when you give your notice is that this job is no longer a good fit for you and leave it at that. If they need more after all that has been going on the past year or so, then they never understood the issues you were having to begin with. I wish you all the best. You have an opportunity to do what many of us working moms wish we could (could have) done. I know the four months I was able to stay home with my oldest daughter made a huge difference in how connected I am to her. Unfortunately, circumstances prevented me from staying home with her longer or with my other daughter. But such is life. Michelle  |
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bethanial
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« Reply #9 on: January 26, 2004, 03:37:28 pm » |
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Good for you Jade... I'm glad you'll be doing what will make YOU happy!
Beth :-)
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countrigal
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« Reply #10 on: January 26, 2004, 09:20:35 pm » |
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Jade, it's great to hear your good news. Definitely don't say anything past your letter, though if you have to say anything else to anyone, you might say that you desire more time with your family at this time. That's definitely not a lie, and it keeps you from saying anything about bossie and your problems (I'm specifically thinking of co-workers who might ask you why you're leaving).
Congrats again!
CountriGal
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lauragfoss
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« Reply #11 on: January 27, 2004, 10:57:44 pm » |
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Just want to add my congrats on your decision--I know how great it feels to leave a job you can't stand. Best of luck, and hope you'll still visit the boards.
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donnap99
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« Reply #12 on: January 30, 2004, 06:49:00 pm » |
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Adding my congratulations! I know this has been on your mind for a long, long time. While I've been home (unemployed) these past few weeks, the idea has been pulling at my heartstrings as well... Hope you will continue to keep in touch!? DonnaP99 |
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