Message #36919

[blufire21]

It sounds to me like you need to have a good talk with your boss.  Schedule a 30 minute meeting with him.  Make sure it is on his calendar, and not a "when you have time, can we talk?" thing as he  disapears when you do that.  Sit down and explain to him, objectively, what you have been experiencing over the past year.  Be non-emotional about it.  Don't include what you are "sensing" (read afraid), but explain how it affects your work.


A good example of your side of the converation would be:

 "Bossie, I've noticed that when I'm in the room, your additude and deminor changes.  You become more withdrawn, and slow to respond to my requests.  Also, when I ask you for some time to meet, I feel like you disapear for a long time.  This causes a problem for me because when I can't find you, or you are hesitant to respond to my request, it hinders my ablity to support you and the office.  Is there something I am doing to cause this, or is there something I can do to help expidite such issues into resolution?"  Course, this is just a suggestion,  but I think it might help you.  If nothing else, it will make your boss relize you notice such things, and he should back off one way or another.  DO NOT mention that he doesn't seem to do this with anyone else, but only with you.  If he is attracted to you, this might make things worse.



Ellen in TX