Telling the truth to one's boss

[beaintheuk]

Today I told some truths to my boss about a manager after nearly 2 and a half years of hearing of his 'dealings'.  The information all built up from conversations with other colleagues and I started to keep some notes.  
However one more thing happened last week, just adding to my list. After consulting the other managers over a few days, I decided to talk to my boss today.  I was really nervous, nobody forced me into this and all the other managers and colleagues who were shying away from talking to my boss had good, genuine reasons to do so, even though they had more reasons than me to speak to my boss about it.  
My boss seemed very grateful and did look sometimes shocked as I was telling him what I knew.   I even ended up telling more than I had previously planned.  I also said that I actually intended to talk to him about the situation with that manager over a year ago.
Anyway my boss now wants me to gather as much facts as I can with the help of the few involved.
I am now eagerly awaiting to see what will happen next.
I thought I would have felt relieved but I still feel a bit tense.

Just needed to get it off my chest again.

[blufire21]

Congratulations for having the guts to inform you boss on such matters.  I hope everything turns out for the best.  Good luck.


Ellen (Um Mr. Hydra.....) in TX

[superninjaadmin]

Hi Bea,

I agree with Bluefire.  And, I hope that you will continue with keeping an open dialog/communication with your boss on a regular basis, rather than holding information for over a year (too long) and then speaking to bossie about it.  

SNA

[winkiebear]

Having been in a similar situation, I'm sure one of the things you're feeling is fear of retribution.

You've taken a GIANT step in the right direction. You're doing the right thing. Keep your own integrity intact!!!

And make sure to let us know how it all turns out!!!

Love and support,
winkie



winkiebear
Deskdemon Editorial Board Member

[beaintheuk]

Fear of retribution: that's probably why I don't feel relieved yet.  However my boss assured me this won't compromise my position in the company.
I did keep this 'secret' for a while only because the IT guy for instance was the best person to speak to my boss about this but he hasn't got the 'guts'!
All the other managers who could/should have approached my boss about it, I think, are just as guilty as I am to have kept it for so long.  People knew but were afraid of getting on the wrong side of the boss or of that manager.  Some claimed that because there is no proof they can't make allegations on someone, etc.
This was/is a difficult and sensitive situation which could lead to the manager's dismissal...
I think it did open up a dialogue with my boss on stuff like this and he wants me to let him know about anything I will hear from now on.  It's always difficult to assess the relationship between my boss and the managers.  For instance my boss played tennis with the manager in question.  My boss could have denied the allegations and put the blame on someone else because of their personal relationship.
Anyway I am waiting to see what will happen in the next few weeks...