Message #27777

[andream]

I tend to agree with the Bethelizer on this point as well.  Creating a group situation before you HAVE to, could well spark some defensivness.  Besides Bea, you're a PA, you can handle this guy on a bad hair day, with your computer throwing blue screens.  It's really about whether you NEED to handle him or not.

Not much point in training a bossie if you won't be there, though there is something to be said for making your point about being demeaned or belittled in the hope that others will benefit from Bossie's new found spirit of communication.

Again, let's take a trip to the real world, ya know the one, where you require a paycheck and possibly a reference from this guy...

How would you feel, as the manager, having a meeting and your first clue, your first inclination(and it will be his first, trust me on this one, he's not got a clue he's in the bossie behaving badly category) anyhow, your first clue that there might be a problem comes in front of other people?! ohhhh baaaad.  Very bad.  NOW he not only has to justify himself to you, you've created a scenario where he might *gasp* look bad too.  

Speak softly darlin, and carry a big ol stick in the form of a great CV and frequent trips to the post office to send them out.

Andrea