I too am fearful of going to the hairdresser, even though I go regularly! Go figure!!!
I have curly hair, which suddenly appeared when I turned 40, and don't know what to do with it. I just had it cut short, and in a bob, which I love on straight hair, but now have to work hard to maintain..........what was I thinking?


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I am fearful because even though it is just hair, I had many, many stylists who did what they wanted, and I walked out looking like my head was a big pumpkin!!!!!
I totally get your fear, my heart is with you.
Best wishes for a great dooooooo!