I can sympathize with you, countrigal. I suspect lots of us have been in similar situations. I think your approach of "keep your head down and do your best" is a good one, and as for the mandated OT, I would suggest one of the following:
- See if there is an opportunity for you to obtain remote access, citing your child care constraints as an issue (I assume you could do an hour or two in the evenings after the kids have gone to bed/are working on homework);
See if an alternate work schedule is available to you - perhaps working 2-3 extra hours on Mondays and then taking a 30 minute lunch T-F can get your 20 hours in?;
See if it's possible for one or two of your colleagues to take some of your OT requirement. I'm sure there is someone who would love the extra pay and may not have the time constraints that you have;
Arrange with a nearby parent to do drop-off or pick-up from school/daycare for your kids in exchange for a little cash.
I think that it's probably a matter of you outlasting Coach A - it looks like she's trying to get out of the department anyhow, so your agnoy may be short-lived. I'd be more concerned about finding a solution to the overtime issue at the moment, as it is more likely to come back and bite you, especially after you made the choice to step down from your Asst Coach role. You don't want to run the risk of appearing that you aren't a team player, or that you're trying to minimize your work contributions. I absolutely understand about wanting to devote more time to your family, but I think that you're going to have to make some tough decisions right now about finding ways to put in the extra time at work or run the risk of sacrificing your job security. I'm sorry you find yourself in this situation.
