All Male in a Female World

[countrigal]

Welcome NYGuy!  It's great to see you posting, though I wish the post was something that wasn't such a sticky subject for you.  All the advice given above is great, and I really don't think I can add any more.  Just know that we're all here, supporting you in your endeavors to be seen as an Outstanding Admin, and nothing else.  I would start with my boss, tell her the situation and then start working on the attitudes and comments of my peers/friends/coworkers.



Keep us posted on what you do, how it is received, etc.



And once again, Welcome to TAA!



CountriGal

[fullmoongoddess]

Well, I'm chiming in here rather late, AND you have received such wonderful responses (as usual) from this list, SO, I would like to extend a VERY WARM WELCOME from Southwest Virginia.  I really look forward to reading your posts, so with that said, Don't Be Shy!  



Dawn (gazing a beautiful full moon tonite!)

[barbri]

Energizer,



You're right, it is harassment regardless of where it's happening. I was thinking more in terms of sexual harassment in the workplace where we are more in tune with what is and isn't appropriate and the consequences of such behavior. I doubt that being ribbed at lunch with one's friends would result in a someone filing a claim of harassment - even though it certainly would be inappropriate behavior.



Why can't we just get past this garbage and get along? (I include myself in that "we".)

[msrobbie]

I think we're getting along just fine here on these forums.  All of the above remarks are well thought out personal opinions.  No one is being rude, just explaining why they feel differently than another poster.  NYGuy has a lot to read and digest and use or disregard at his discretion.  Who could ask for anything more?



I can't tell you how proud I am that this site continues to be a treasure trove of knowledge and support, and that the people who choose to post here have good manners and conduct themselves professionally . . . with just the touch of good fun now and then.



I encourage everyone to continue voicing their opinions in this courteous fashion.   We all need a fresh point of view to give us a jump-start once in a while.



Robbie

[barbri]

Please let me clarify - when I said "why can't we all get along?" I meant as adults in the business world and we was meant to include all employees/ employers/ coworkers, etc. It would just be wonderful if we could get past the power games that cause things like sexual harassment - which as we all know is about control, not attraction. Wouldn't it be wonderful to go to work and do your job to the best of your ability without worrying about gender issues, race issues, religion issues, and all the other issues that human beings raise as barriers between themselves.



I agree that the users of these forums do a great job of getting along and expressing differing opinions in a very civilized manner. These forums are a wonderful source of information and I appreciate it's existence.



Barb