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« on: August 24, 2010, 05:21:26 pm » |
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Let's say you don't really like your manager, or maybe direct report you have to work with, or even another support staff but you have to work with them and see them on a daily basis. Has this happened to you and if so how did you handle it? If you are lucky have have liked those you have worked with how do you think you would handle working with someone you don't like.
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Atlanta Z3
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« Reply #1 on: August 24, 2010, 06:16:41 pm » |
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Doesn't every office have that "one" person. For me I try to spend as little time as possible with her. Less contact equals less conflict. All interaction is work related, no chit chat, or personal details needed. I don't need to know about her issues with daycare, school, significant other, or co-workers. What does frost the flake is when I have to do her work when she is out of the office, on company time doing personal things.
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gee4
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« Reply #2 on: August 24, 2010, 06:33:35 pm » |
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I guess every office does have that "one" person but for me it was my bullying boss in my previous company. No matter how I did my job or what I tried to do, he nit-picked at every stage and made my day to day life in the office very difficult.
I was pleasant to him and did my best on various occasions to make suggestions about ways of doing things better, smarter etc but to no avail. It was clear he liked things just as they were.
In the end, after much deliberation, I plucked up the courage to confront him because clearly I felt there was a problem, yet when I did so, he denied anythng was wrong and said he was not aware of how he came across. I believe that was a lie. Others caught him out too because he treated them the same.
I know we cannot like or get on with everyone we work with and yes people do annoy us from time to time, as you will see from some of my postings, but bullying is one thing I cannot and will not tolerate. For me, that crosses the line, every time.
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jennika
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« Reply #3 on: August 24, 2010, 07:04:33 pm » |
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I agree there is always one person in the office that .... gets under your skin. Right now it is HEAVEN compared to a few years ago. We worked the biggest egotistical a-word.. He was better than everyone else, pushy, lied, just horrible to work with. It SO wasn't just me but everyone. How did I handle it since I had to work with this person daily? (as well as make it easier for others to work with him that really had troubles with him, he almost made a few of our staff quit, they just wouldn't work with him and I had to be a liaison) I tried to listen, grin and not take anything personal, and stood my ground when I was right and he wasn't. I didn't let myself get pushed around. He was let go after about one year with the company. Biggest tip, he was a a-word and to everyone, in and out of the office so I tried to remember on a day, this is him, it is not me. To this day he is the one person I am say I am so glad he is gone. I was just talking to my manager about it the other day.
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peaches2160
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« Reply #4 on: August 25, 2010, 08:51:41 am » |
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I have had a few over the years I hope I never cross paths with again. I handle them with a pleasant attitude, keep conversations on a need to know basis and brief as possible. People like this are always called out in the end. I try not to let them bring me down with them so I keep my distance as much as possible. The deceivers are the ones I just can not tolerate since I am an honest person and expect honesty in return. Again, it always catches up with them in the end.
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Rocket
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« Reply #5 on: August 31, 2010, 02:02:01 pm » |
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On the whole I like most people with whom I work. I don't really have to like them, but I do have to get on with them!
My strategy, when I have to work with that less than pleasant person, is simple. I keep all my contact with them straightforward, pleasant, courteous and professional. If they really get up my nose, then I try to find SOMETHING that is likeable about them. I used to work with a colleague who behaved like a thoroughly spoiled child. The trouble with her was that no manager had ever been strong or firm enough to put a stop to her behaviour. I still believe that they did HER a disservice by not dealing effectively with her outbursts. On the other hand, in her very late middle age she took on responsibility for several of her grandchildren when the parents were declared by the authorities to be unfit to take care of them. So she must have had something good about her.
I also, when harrassed by other people, reflect on these things:
I don't have to live with them 24/7. They have to and if they are unpleasant then they must be their own punishment.
We must never underestimate the forebearance that other people extend to us. Or, as an old woman, in my home village in Yorkshire, said to me when I was a child, "Ay love. Everybody in t'world is queer but thee and me and even tha's a bit queer".
Wise words.
Celeste
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