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Author Topic: $160,140.00 . . . money well spent  (Read 5052 times)
winkiebear
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« on: November 28, 2000, 10:17:47 am »

The government recently calculated the cost of raising a child from birth to 18 and came up with $160,140.00 for a middle-income family. Talk about sticker shock. That doesn't even touch college tuition. For those with kids, that figure leads to wild fantasies about all the things we could have bought, all the places we could have traveled, all the money we could have banked if not for (insert child's name here). For others, that number might confirm the decision to remain childless.



But $160,140.00 isn't so bad if you break it down.

It translates into: $8,896.66 a year, $741.38 a month or $171.08 a week. That's a mere $24.44 a day. Just over a dollar an hour. Still, you might think the best financial advice says don't have children if you want to be rich. It's just the opposite. There's no way to put a price tag on: Feeling a new life move for the first time and seeing the bump of a knee rippling across your skin. Having someone cry, "It's a boy!" or shout, "It's a girl!" then hearing the baby wail and knowing all that matters is it's healthy. Counting all 10 fingers and toes for the first time.

Feeling the warmth of fat cheeks against your breast. Cupping an entire head in the palm of your hand. Making out dada or mama from all the cooing and gurgling. What do you get for your $160,140.00?



--Naming rights. First, middle and last.

--Glimpses of God every day.

--Giggles under the covers every night.

--More love than your heart can hold.

--Butterfly kisses and Velcro hugs.

--Endless wonder over rocks, ants, clouds and warm cookies.

--A hand to hold, usually covered with jam.

--A partner for blowing bubbles, flying kites, building sand castles and skipping down the sidewalk in the pouring rain, puddle jumping.

--Someone to laugh yourself silly with no matter what the boss said or how your stocks performed that day. For $160,140.00, you never have to grow up.

--You get to finger-paint, carve pumpkins, play hide-and-seek, catch lightning bugs and never stop believing in Santa Claus. --You have an excuse to keep reading the adventures of Piglet and Pooh, watching Saturday morning cartoons, going to Disney movies and wishing on stars. --You get to frame rainbows, hearts and flowers under refrigerator magnets and collect spray-painted noodle wreaths for Christmas, hand prints set in clay for Mother's Day and cards with backward letters for Father's Day.



For $160,140.00, there's no greater bang for your buck.

--You get to be a hero just for retrieving a Frisbee off the garage

roof, taking the training wheels off the bike, removing a sliver, filling the wading pool, coaxing a wad of gum out of bangs and coaching a baseball team that never wins but always gets treated to ice cream regardless.

--You get a front-row seat to history; to witness the first step, first word, first bra, first date, first time behind the wheel.

--You get to be immortal. You get another branch added to your family tree, and if you're lucky, a long list of limbs in your obituary called grandchildren.

--You get an education in psychology, nursing, criminal justice, communications and human sexuality no college can match.

--In the eyes of a child, you rank right up there with God.

--You have the power to heal a boo-boo, scare away

monsters under the bed, patch a broken heart, police a slumber party, ground them forever and love them without limits, so one day they will, like you, love without counting the cost.
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« Reply #1 on: November 28, 2000, 10:30:12 am »

Oh Winkie!  Where's my tissues?!  That was beautiful.



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« Reply #2 on: November 28, 2000, 10:45:26 am »

and then looked at the pics of my two little angels and wiped my tears and thanked the Powers That Be.



 
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« Reply #3 on: November 28, 2000, 11:37:51 am »

Winkie - that was beautiful....brought tears to my eyes...



My son is 18 now and I recall all the things listed....what wonderful times!  Don't take it for granted....they grow up before you know it.



When he was little, I used to hold him on my chest and rub his head to get him to sleep, or just to calm him down if he was upset.....he still comes and lays his head on my lap and asks me to rub his head!  



Thank you for sharing this, Winkie.



tlc (with tears drying...) in TN
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« Reply #4 on: November 30, 2000, 05:25:02 pm »

I'm so thankful that my "baby," an 11-year-old boy, still "allows" me to pick him up on my lap and lay his head on my shoulder.  I'm pretty sure he still likes it too, as long as it's just the two of us!  



One of the best feelings I remember having was when I was ready to bust with my 2nd, and my 13-month-old daughter would sit on my lap, facing me, giving both me and her little sister simultaneous hugs.



Each one of them is a little miracle!

 
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« Reply #5 on: December 06, 2000, 05:21:15 pm »

I cried too.  I always try to remember all the wonderful things my son has brought me over his

7 1/2 years.  He was born 2 1/2 months premature and weighed 2 lbs 10 oz and was definately a miracle for me and my husband.  When my husband and I are fighting/talking about money and the lack thereof and my husband brings up all we were able to do when we did not have our son, I remind him of all that he has brought to our lives and that money should not matter but happiness should.



Thank you for reminding me that my son is worth every penny we spend on him and the money we do not spend on him while doing his favorite thing (we go to Friendly for ice cream every Tuesday while my husband is at Weight Watcher - just the two of us) is just as special.



Susan

   
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