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« on: February 14, 2005, 05:27:34 pm » |
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I thought I'd go for the obvious one, as the week kicks off with the annual love in that is Valentines Day. What is the general concensus on romance in the office - good thing, bad thing, or not worth all the coverage about whether it should be allowed?
Clare
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gee4
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« Reply #1 on: February 14, 2005, 05:43:32 pm » |
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Put it this way it happens when you least expect it  ..... that's all I am saying. Good or bad depends on the individual(s) involved but I don't think you can cast judgement on anyone. Flirting in the office can be fun, as long as you are professional and it does not interfere with your daily work. G |
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countrigal
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« Reply #2 on: February 14, 2005, 08:32:55 pm » |
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I think in a general way of discussing, that it is bad and should not be allowed, but in reality it may happen and go with it. If it does happen, it should be handled as professionally as possible. I've seen office romances that work mainly because the romance is outside the office and inside they are 2 professionals that no one would be aware are more outside the office. I think it works best in situations where the 2 may work for the same company, in close offices but not actually in the same division or office, so that there is less opportunity for out-of-office ill feelings to bleed into the work relationship. But do I think that this is something that should be pursued purposely and without regards to how it may affect the work relationship? No, in no uncertain terms. If 2 folks do find their significant other in the work place, then they need to approach it carefully and keep as professional a persona as possible at all times in the work place. Nothing worse than 2 folks having a tiff and it bleeding into the office and affecting everyone that works with them with the vibes they're putting off.
CountriGal
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Jackie G
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« Reply #3 on: February 14, 2005, 08:34:12 pm » |
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Let's face it, we spend the majority of our time in the office, so if romance is going to happen - I'm talking about the long lasting, living together/married type of romance, then nothing's going to stop it. But I agree it should be handled professionally and not brought into the office. That's the hard bit... Jackie, Peer Moderator www.iqps.org |
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sobriquetnic
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« Reply #4 on: February 14, 2005, 10:12:03 pm » |
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My now-fiance took over my job and now we work in the same office - in fact he sits on the very next desk to me!
We get along fine at work but it is VERY difficult to detach if you've had a row the night before or on the way to work! lol! Seriously though, I think we handle it well and of course everyone knows about it and are happy for us so that makes a big difference.
I remember an instance recently when I got into a row with another colleague because I was standing up for Chris when it was suggested he hadn't done something (he had, but I guess that's not the point here!). My boss got to hear about it and whilst agreeing that I had a point, he said I had to be more detached in this situation. He's very understanding though because he met his wife through work and she worked in the same office for a while too - I know he found it difficult and he understands.
We also have a couple that are married - but they run separate offices. I know they have little competitions though about profit margins etc! They have a lovely son though and another baby on the way so it's worked out well for them.
The thing I actually like about us working together is that we are totally understanding of each others moods etc because we know exactly what has happened during the day!
It's not always an ideal situation but I'd say it's working well for us, and not hopefully at the expense of our professionalism or work either.
Happy Valentines Day to you all!
Nicola.
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diamondlady
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« Reply #5 on: February 14, 2005, 10:16:40 pm » |
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It can be done. It has been done in our office. They were in the same department and when parted remained friends to this day. Whoever posted that its where you spend much of your working day is correct and can understand how it can happen. Not always the best situation depending upon how closely you work together and what department, but I've seen it work where a husband and wife worked in the same department where their chairs backed into each others all day long. Had the same hours and the same lunch schedule. Worked wonderful for them.
Diamondlady fka chris68
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charity
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« Reply #6 on: February 15, 2005, 01:48:38 pm » |
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Hi everyone - it has been a while!!! I agree with all the above sentiments raised - I think being professional about the relationship and able to separate the two lives is very important. Not only for you as a couple but for those people you work with. A personal view - I would not want to work with my other half in the same office let alone in the building! Charity Edited by charity on 15/02/05 12:51 PM. |
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diamondlady
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« Reply #7 on: February 15, 2005, 02:38:12 pm » |
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Charity, I'd have to agree with you on that statement. I wouldn't want to work with my husband either. He's too much of a perfectionist and would drive me to drink.  Love him dearly, but don't think I could work for him. I'd hate to think of what that office would look like if ours at home is any indication. Diamondlady fka chris68 Peer Moderator |
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JessW
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« Reply #8 on: February 16, 2005, 04:05:36 pm » |
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I usually only read these soundoff items, but have decided to join this one.
I spotted the Office Romance survey and so decided to do it only to realise that it doesn't matter on that if you agree or disagree with the idea, the second half of the survey is based on all of us having either an 'affair'/relationship with either a colleague or a boss or (I beg your pardon) both (and I do hope not at the same time).
On the whole the potential for things going drastically wrong and making life very aukward for everyone including those involved in the relationship is far to great for me to ever condone such behaviour in myself so never will or would consider it a potential 'hunting ground'.
Just what I believe.
Jess
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spitfire78
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« Reply #9 on: February 16, 2005, 05:09:31 pm » |
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Never been a principal party in an office romance. However, from past (and current) experience, I can say that it is no fun being caught in the middle of two bossies who are romantically involved or married. I am sure somewhere out there someone has bossies who are involved and everyone is happy. However, my own experience is that bossies who are involved or married generally make life a living hell for their admins.
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semaxwell1
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« Reply #10 on: February 26, 2005, 02:48:54 am » |
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All I can say is, from personal experience, it doesn't work out for me. Therefore I stay away from it! If the company doesn't have rules about coworkers dating, and the relationship doesn't effect the workers' job performance and relations with their coworkers, then I say go for it. That is if it's not a "cheating" affair, but that's a whole nother thread (NOT from personal experience). I've seen some office relationships grow into marriage and some deteriorate so bad that someone quits their job.  semaxwell1  |
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diamondlady
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« Reply #11 on: February 26, 2005, 06:08:04 pm » |
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Thats what you fear the most. One can only hope that the two are grown up enough to handle what happens in a relationship that doesn't work and can work around it and still work together. Otherwise, then the company has potential of loosing good employees over it. They have to decide if its worth the risk.
Diamondlady fka chris68
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